Today we did this measurement of locus control exercise in my management science class. In short, it is a method of determining whether you think you are in control of your life, or if you think you have no control of the happenings surrounding you.
It had statements like "Promotions are earned through hard work and persistence" or "Getting promoted is really a matter of being a little luckier than the next person"; "achieving a successful marriage depends on the devotion and commitment of both partners to each other" or " The most important element in a happy marriage is being lucky enough to marry the right person"; and "People like me can change the course of world affairs if we make ourselves heard" or "It is only wishful thinking to believe that you can really influence what happens in society at large".
This got me intrigued, especially on the marriage questions. Is the increasing rates of divorce a result of an increasingly external locus of control in family life? Are people getting divorced because they think "well, I guess it's just my luck that I married the wrong person" rather than trying to stick out the tough times?
Why is it that as our society as a whole becomes more educated and literate, we cannot devote more time and attention to our spouse? In my mind, marriage = "til death do us part". And outside of persistent physical and verbal abuse, there are very few reasons to justify a break of that bond. I don't buy into that whole "irreconciliable differences" bullshit. Of course there are going to be differing opinions and tough times. But that is a test of our patience and persistence and love.
Am I too conservative in my thinking?